Your Attachment Style Test 🧸

How this test was designed

What it measures

Which of four attachment patterns — secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized — your gut reactions in romantic moments keep pointing at, and how those four pull against each other in you. It surfaces the reflex underneath the behavior: whether silence reads as "they're busy" or "they're leaving," whether closeness feels like home or like losing control, whether a fight pulls you toward repair or toward retreat. It's a snapshot of the patterns showing up in your answers today, not a fixed label on your capacity to love.

Why these questions

The questions all live in one specific moment of pressure each — a six-hour silence, "I need to tell you something" then a pause, your partner being charming with someone attractive at a party, an ex reaching out six months later. We build them this way because attachment patterns hide in calm and show up under threat; nobody's avoidance shows when everything's easy. We ask what happens in your body and your first internal reaction rather than "are you a clingy person?", because almost no one answers that honestly, while everyone remembers exactly how their stomach felt the last time a text went unanswered.

How the result is divided

Every option quietly feeds points into the four buckets — secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized — and most options spread their points across two of them rather than scoring just one, because real people are rarely a clean single type. The pattern with the most points becomes your result. When your top two scores are close, you're genuinely sitting between two styles (the most common one is anxious-leaning-disorganized), and the result is written to say so rather than forcing you into the louder bucket.

Please do not

Do not use this to type the person you're dating — "you're so avoidant" is the fastest way to turn a tender result into a weapon in an argument. The quiz only knows your answers, and an attachment pattern is something you notice in yourself and slowly work with, not a label you pin on someone from across the room. If a result lands sore in a way that's distress rather than curiosity, a real conversation with a therapist will do far more than any quiz can.